sunnyside

Happy new year

2010-01-03T05:43:00.001Z

Hi guys. . . Welcome to 2010, how have u been? How was ur xmas. .? How are u doing now? Hope u are just splendid and everything is grt. .

As for me am good. . I seem to have been bitten by a kind of blog laziness, and am being so carried away by facebook. Apart from that and the fact that i have no resolutions yet this new year. . I think am perfect.

So am just here to wish u guys a beautiful new year. . I appreciate u all, u are always on my mind, and when am not around, i miss u guys a lot. .

Having said that, i pray that the good lord will bless and keep us this new year, may he shine the light of his countenance upön us.
And give us rest.
May all our plans, goals, dreams and desires for this 2010 be fullfilled, that at last we ll have great cause to glorify God even as we do now for life given Amen. ..

Have a beautiful time. And God bless y'all.

Love from
sunnyside

Should you tell your partner Everything. .

2009-12-23T12:03:00.003Z

Whats up guys. . . . How have u been? Probably enjoying the xmas season right. . . Or Not. . Anyway i wish u guys merry xmas and all the best. .

I also want to thank u everyone who has contributed to my blog in one way or the other through ur comments, etc i really really appriciate it.

I was reading a blog the other day and i cant really remember the blog name. . But the person was talking about looking back at the things she wrote maybe years later n be like, this is how i used to reason while i was a teeneger or so so years old. .

So am keeping this blog, writing anything i feel like, no matter how stupid it may sound hoping that one day, in the nearest or farthest future, i can look back at what i ve written, my ideas, thoughts, theories about life and everything and laugh. . ... .

So back to my thought 4 today. . ..

how much should your partner know about you. Is it right to tell him or her everything that goes on in your day to day life or are there things you should keep to your self. .

If so how much should one keep to him/her self. .

Still on the same issue when you do something wrong no matter what it is, most especially cheat on your spouse. . Is it right to tell him or her even when you know they might never find out. . And it doesnt seem neccessary,

what should be your reason for confessing even at the detriment of your relationship. I.e when it might affect your relationship negatively, why cause a trouble you can avoid by just keeping a little secret. .

Do you agree with me that most times we confess a wrong simply becos we feel guilty and we want the other person to share our burden. Is that really neccessary?
Dont you think its only reasonable that we bear the burden of our guilt, instead of causing the other person a pain he/she doesnt deserve , which could have been avoided by keeping a few things to your self.

I ve always advocated telling your partner everything infact, i tell mine everytin, no matter how right or wrong that thing might be. .

Yet every time i tell someone that i dont have any secrets, am always told that i should keep certain things to my self that im beggining to think they might be right.

even proffessionals will say its ok to keep a few things to your self. .

So What do you think. ?
What are the things u cant share with your partner in a relationship or marriage, . .wether its about your bu$siness, money issues, sexual affairs etc. . Or will u share just about everything and anything. .
Will love to know ur view. .

Merry xmas and have fun. .

Mumblings(

2009-12-14T19:22:00.002Z

Hello everyone,
how have you guys been. Hope u ve been great. For me, well its been pretty much like a drama anyway. I know i said this post will be a continuation of the stuffs i talked about on my last post but change is constant so. . . .

Its been like 2 months now since i joined blogsville or has it been 3. . Yes . No . .maybe

i remember why i joined blogsville, twas cos of my sister, yes ! I have a sister here in blogsville, same blood and everything.

Guess who it is?

Guess right and win a price. . Lol

Well she was always talking about her blog, her blog, this her blog that for almost a year or two she went on about this blog thing and i tot, i must find out what it is about blogging that makes her go on about it everytime.

And i did, i joined blogsville, a newbie, not knowing my left from my right about blogging, i didnt even know how to write my first post and she was of so much help. Infact my first post was her idea and i thank her for that, cos till now i would have been thinking about what to write and how to go about it. Lol.

Having her here was grt and wierd at the same time. Cos . . . . . . . . .you know now.. .
But that has changed, now the weirdness is gone. Its just great. Sis dont u think so. .?

My blog is going tru a phase, am almost at the verge of deleting it. . Dont run away now. ! Am just kidding. .

The first few weeks of blogging was grt. Meeting new friends/people. Etc but i feel the fun is begining to wear off. 'for a whole lot of reasons

i had an idea of what i wanted my blog to be all about but i seem to be diverting. . So am kinda trying to figure out the kind of things i want to be writing about but till then
.. . . . . .

Recently i ve been having this feeling of wanting to just say . . .L.i.f.e S.u.c.k.s yeah i said it and ironically i feel better. Dont get me wrong my life is beautiful, just that atimes . . . Hmmm

i went to visit sb today and her child was crying, i carried the baby as she stopped crying, and i had this feeling, i just wanted to have a baby and knew then that i would love him/her and he/her will make me happy. I felt all that while holding that child and believe me it was a great feeling. Yet thats gonna have to wait except i want my parents to skin me alive. . . Lol

To all my blog followers. .i just wanna say This blog is still here cos of u, thanks a grt deal

to those who read my blog without leaving comments and those that do leave comments well i appreciate it.

And i wont forget to add, sis please dont kill me for talking about you in my post, hope u dont mind. And well no one even knows its you . .so Lol.

Have a grt week ahead and never mind my mumbings and jumblings of a post.. . .

Love 4rm moi

Mumblings(

2009-12-14T19:22:00.001Z

Desire

2009-11-26T22:05:00.005Z

Its the beauty of the morning
Its the tender rising sun
Its a piece of my heart falling
Asking why you are on the run

Could you not hear my heart calling
Like an infant crying child
Would i wake up in the noontime
To behold your graceful charm

Are you thinking what am thinking
Would you gladly give a miss
Are you scared of your heart breaking
If you give it one true kiss

Are you sharing in my fate now
Would my love not love me back
Do you hunger just like i now
Are you thirsty for my face.

PS.
so i ve been thinking about all this stuff, OBE (out of body experience), telepathy or mind control, lucid dreaming, astral travel and lot more. truth is i ve been doing a lot more than thinking about it, i 've been.... haha i ll gist you guys about it maybe in my next post. i just want to know kind of in advance, what do you guys think about those stuffs, i know for sure they exist. i mean the fact that you dont believe in it doesn't mean it doesnt exist. so have you ever thought about them or am i alone in my crazy discovery chanel. So if you have, how do you view it, is it ok for christians to practice such things and if you say its not, where is it written in your bible.?
Atimes i see the whole thing as VAIN, but isn't everything else in this world VANITY.

have a lovely week

LOVE VERSUS MONEY

2009-11-25T21:49:00.008Z

where am i....... and how did i get here ? Ola wondered,
as she sat up from her once new mattress, which now felt the same as sleeping on the hard floor.

she held dike her two year old son with one hand and with the other hand adjusted her worn out wrapper, which hung loosely around her waist.

she walked to the mirror but all she saw was a shadow of her old self.
she didn't like what she saw, where she was and what she has become.

her husband a handsome hardworking young man,did his best to provide for the family,
but luck wasn't smiling at him, so his best wasn't good enough.

2 years ago they were the best couple you could ever dream of, engaged and so much in love, yet
she was soon to discover that marriage was a different kind of love story and it was nothing like courtship.

despite the fact that they still loved each other, life to them was not a bed of roses

she looked at her son dike and kissed him, yet wondering if the song would have played a different tune had she married Jonson, a man whom she did not love but who was handsomely rich

instead of her husband, nkem, the poor yet hardworking guy she was so much in love with and couldn't live without.

And they lived happily/unhappily ever after..

So

love OR money, which would you rather live happily ever after with,

for me i wouldnt go for love without money neither will i go for money without love
i mean they need each other
so i always pray 'lord please give me both"

But what if you only get to choose one, you cant have both, which would you choose? Love OR Money

love from moi

AAAHHHHHHHHH

2009-11-23T00:30:00.004Z

There are a lot of things on my mind, a heavily armed lot, that right now
i feel like screaming , screaming on top of my voice, screaming my head off
just screaming aaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

screaming at MTN for being such a fucked up network, for not being able to
satisty her customers, for not keeping their freaking network stable.
for contineously stealing my credit, and for their numerous dubious ways.

screaming at power holding, for the really poor work they are doing, i mean
is nigeria ever going to be any better when it comes to giving us light, i wonder,
i just wonder.

screaming at life for being so unfair, you know some christian comfort
themselves with the idea of heaven, saying we are only strangers her etc etc so its only normal for us to suffer on earth and enjoy later in heaven
others say that christians should be able to enjoy there lives here, even before heaven
and i agree with them

but i feel like screaming because atimes it seems so difficult so damn difficult to
to be happy here screaming because everything seems to be spining around me,confusing,and choking.

screaming because there are so many things i dont understand, about God, about attraction, sexual attraction, about why good people die and the bad ones get to live.

screaming because this is not what i was supposed to post but i misplaced my diary today, so i had to improvise. i guess thats why all the need to scream started in the first place

All out... hmmmmmmmm!!! now i feel better.

thanks for being there

have a scream free week

2009-11-09T01:53:00.003Z

hi everyone how has it been....?
hope you guys have been cool
really i cant believe its been a
month and counting since i last updated
well its nice to be back

i ve been pretty lazy lately i know but
i ve been reading your posts though i dont
drop comments

well this is me.. and its really nice to be back
missed you guys
@hyaw and rose thanks for coming by to check on me
am ok, at least i am now

this will just have to do for today, i ll put up something
better later.

have a beautiful week 4rm moi

A friend

2009-10-01T15:05:00.001+01:00

people of blogville i salute una ooo
happy independence day to everyone. .and again its a new month so wishing u all a beautiful beautiful month. . .

Im glad we are still in this together. Hope we will still be till next month. lol

how would u define a friend . . . There are lots and lots of defitions of a friend. . . but i do know that a friend is someone who cares enough to notice you are in pain or need without u neccessarily telling them and provides reasonable solution to ur need. . Thats a friend. . But how many of us are really trully friends. .and Do we act as one?

Here's a poem i wrote on a friend and am dedicating it to someone i met here in blogville, someone who has been more than a friend to moi n i guess to others too. .cos she has such a lovely heart. .

A friend

A friend is someone you can trust
with the whole of your heart
someone you can lean on
when you are not strong

A friend is one who reaches out for you
in all situations both good and bad
someone who never lets go
when the going gets tough

A friend is one who is ever willing to give
his time and all away
someone who takes your yoke
and makes it his or hers

though there be
quite a lot of friends
but difficult, it is
to find a friend so true
as i have found in you

to rose @raindropsonarose.blogspot.com

2009-09-13T13:48:00.002+01:00

Hello guys. Whats been happening?

Got gist for you
hmm I dont really know how to say this but i gat to say it anyway.

Recently
I witnessed the modernized verson of that incident that made dear jesus say
"if u say u have no sin in u pls cast the first stone"

yet i wonder
will people actually walk away if that same question is being asked again in this modern age
or will they stay and kill d sinner, since there seem to be so many over righteous individuals hovering around...

dnt know abt that bible story. Pls ask ur pastor. .

AnywayI really felt for the poor soul.. With every dick tom and harry tendering their judgement as they deemed fit,

but what can i say

Plsssss lets give this self aclaimed position as judges a break.

Lets try to love one another... Have u noticed that u rarely judge someone you love.

So lets love and with love correct

dis poem says it all

Dont find faults with the man who limps
or stumbles along the road
unless u have worn the shoes he wears
or struggled beneath his load.
there may be a track in his shoes that hurt
though hidden far away from view
or the burden he bears placed on your neck
might cause you to stumble too

dont sneer at the man who's down today, unless u 've felt the blow that caused hìs fall, or felt the shame that only the fallen know. You may be strong but the blows that were his, if dealt to you in the self same way, at the self same time, might cause you to stagger too

dont be too harsh with the man who sins
or pelt him with words or stones
unless u are sure that you have not sins of your own
for u know perhaps if the tempters voice
should whisper as soft to you as it did to him
when he went astray
it would cause you to falter too.
Vera barker-philip

(lol)lots of love 4rm moi

The perfectionist

2009-09-02T13:14:00.000+01:00

Wow! Last month was really splendid. hope it was for u.
Well its a new month,wishing u all the best.

I appreciate everyone who read my last post n left lovely comments. Thanks a lot.

Two contradicting quotes abt perfection

"Artists who seek
perfection in
everything are
those who do not
attain it in anything" gustave flaubert

"fix ur eyes on
perfection and u
make almost
everything speed
towards it" william ellery

As we walk through life we get to discover and understand ourselves.
The kind of person we are and atimes the reason why we do the things we do.

As we jorney thru life we go through a learning process,
learning about ourself, about others, about our environment and the universe at large.

During this jorney, i ve come to know myself more and more,
and understand why i do the things i do and lots more.

I ve come to discover that am very emotional and secretive etc.
Also i ve tendencies towards being a perfectionist.

Perfectionist?

Meet me: I cant take any action until am certain
its the perfect thing to do.

Before i say a word i go over it a million times in my head
puting it in perfect order before i say it out.

While writing i go over anything i ve written
a million times editing and polishing it,
most times it ends up losing its meaning.
And i ve to start all over again.

I can think of so many things i ve not said
just cos i was looking for d perfect way to say wats on my mind and couldn't find any.

I always set a high standard 4 my self, most times for others also and
it could be a problem when i or they fall short of it.

so it got me wondering,
do things ve to be perfect before we indulge in it?

are there times when good should be enough ?

do we waste our lives waiting for the perfect opportunities, perfect job, man, wife, book, writing, etc?

is there anything perfect in this world, or is perfect simply what you make of of it.

Is there hope 4 those who believe that something must be perfect b4 they take a leap?

I cant stop wondering
just hope the "i want it perfect" side of me wont start editing this till it loses its original meaning

oh she's trying so hard not to..

U could also share one or two things u ve discovered/learnt about ur self.

Nice week

sweet revenge

2009-08-25T20:36:00.000+01:00

"Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned
Nor Hell a fury
Like a woman scorned”

It was a beautiful Saturday morning,the sun had come up earlier than usual.
Tessy stirred on her bed as the brightly shining sun peered through her window
resting on her rumpled face.

She couldn't believe it was dawn already; maybe it was one of those shorter nights
she thought to her self,Well it was definitely going to be a very long day she muttered.

She tried to get up but felt so tired; she couldn’t help but think about the events
of the week,

It had really been hectic for her especially the celebration of her sister's birthday.

It was finally over she thought .Then she remembered something else, something that
made her smile, It wasn't the thought of her boyfriend making sweet love to her

Neither was it the thought of living in a beautiful mansion with her handsome husband
And lots of kids, something she had always fantasized about.

No! This was different, it was something else, something she had always longed for
But had given up over the years. Years? She couldn't believe it had been that long ago

For she remembered it vividly, she remembered it like it happened a moment ago.
She let her mind wander back to that faithful Friday afternoon, She had gone to have

lunch with her friend Lilia, Lilia and tessy had been friends since childhood,
they did almost everything together and were lucky to be admitted into the same higher institution.

The saying that opposites attract was true to their friendship, Tessy was an extrovert while
Lilia was quite reserved and quiet, they carried on so well that every one wanted to be like them.

That day tessy dressed in her usual outfit,body hug top and jean trousers set out to have lunch with lilian,but faith had much more than food in store for her.

They were about to enter the restaurant and there he was, staring at her looking
cuter than any man he had ever seen ,with the sexiest lips any girl could ever dream of.Tessy giggled at the thought of kissing him, smiling sheepishly as she did.

Lost in her thoughts, she didn’t notice him approach her But his musical voice brought her back to reality. Am Alexandra but you could call me Alex he said smiling.You are beautiful he added. Thanks she replied and introduced herself as tessy.

Lilian obviously bored by the discussion excused her self to order for the food,
Few minutes later tessy joined her. They ate quietly when tessy finally spoke,
Isn’t he perfect she said, yes but not for you replied Lilia.

You are just jealous tessy had said laughing as they walked back to their hostel.

A week later they met again both happy to see each other, and from that day on they met over and over again.He called her his princess and told her she was beautiful and it seemed to satisfy her.

Lilia warned her to stay away Yet she was adamant because she realized she had fallen in love with him.But Alex wasn’t someone you fall in love with, He was always busy, never around,

Girls flocked around him,making it difficult for him to concentrate on one girl, but that didn’t matter to tessy for she loved him,She loved him with her heart.

They stayed happy for while like every new lover, he told her how much he appreciated her and how he couldn't do without her, he brought her presents and treated her like every married man treats his new bride.

Tessy was convinced he loved her though he never said so himself. she let her self
fall deeply in love with him .Few months later the tides began to shift, he became less available and gave flimsy excuses about not seeing her but assured her she had no reason to worry.

Alex wasn't the kind of guy that got commited to a girl, he had strings of girls throwing themselves at him that he couldn't imagine settling down with a particular girl .

yet He liked tessy, he liked being with her, she came first to him and every other girl followed, that was the best he could offer her.

So many times he had lied to her but she always found out the truth then he would apologize saying he lied so as not to hurt her, to protect her. She accepted it as one of those things that happen.

Who doesn’t lie she would say to Lilia, continue telling yourself that
Lilia would reply.

but he didn't stop at that, he had hidden affairs which he denied till she caught him red handed.It hurt her so much that he could betray her that much but after he apologized looking so remorseful, like he was a changed person

She managed to stay angry with him for few weeks and knowing she couldn’t stay angry at him forever, she decided to forgive him.

She had always told herself that the first man to know her sexually Was the man she would settle down with and Alex was that man,she wasn’t going to let go now.

yet Alex wasn’t making it easy for her,she was the only one holding the relationship together and she couldn't think of letting go for the thought of that
tore her heart to shreds.

Despite she knew it might have been the best thing for her but it would hurt much more than staying in the relationship, she couldn't bear living without him. she was in love with him.

the fact that she loved him was all that mattered to her, she was determined to wait till he came around only hoping her love alone would be able to sustain both of them till then.

The next year Alex was to graduate from school and that bothered tessy so much but Alex had told her she had no reason to worry."don't worry my tess, i will call you every day and will be visit you regularly, you would barely notice I’m gone" those were his exact words.

and tessy had believed him

then he left and never called her, never visited her, she tried every means she knew to contact him but failed,she sent him mail yet got was no reply. he had left her, left her without a word, left her heartbroken.

he hadn't just gone but had taken her pride with him,her trust. she wept, wept for all that she had lost that couldn’t be regained, wept for love cos it hurt, and it hurt so bad

but she lived on though she never really got over it at the time.

Hello Blogville

2009-08-20T22:49:00.000+01:00

Things have been pretty dull and boring for me lately and I

couldn't think of any better way of spicing things up than blogging

Nothing could beat the excitement of meeting new

friends and being able to share ur thoughts with them ,especially

as I love writing and have lots of things to share.i hope to make

lots new friends here am also looking forward to having an

exciting time with wonderful people in blogsville